12/3/2015 0 Comments The Problem With Texting AdviceIn today's world (for some reason), people feel the need to flock to their friends when they receive a text message. Most of the times these instances occur when said person is trying to impress a boy or girl they consider a potential suitor. We go to our friends with pleading eyes and desperate hands, shaking in an addiction, craving some sort of guidance while counting down the minutes it's been since we've received their last message. It's all about impressing this person and forming ourselves into our best possible versions...kind of like constantly being on an interview. We send our best selfies, we proofread messages, and we decipher messages as if we work for the CIA instead of the CPK. The problem with having others determine your conversation is that this new person that you're talking to will never really get to meet the real you. Or when they do, you'll be very different than they expected. If in texts, you come off as cool as nonchalant, what is going to happen when you meet for a date and they realize you're anxious and needy? By not texting as you, you are lying to this potential boyfriend/girlfriend, but worst of all you are lying to yourself. Think of it as being in school. Remember how teachers always tell you not to cheat? Because it's bad. Yeah yeah, we all know that. But also because, in the end, cheating is going to be more problematic for you. During the beginning of the semester you'll be getting A's because you can just copy off of your friends. But what happens when finals occur? Now you'll have to scramble to learn months worth of material over the span of maybe a few weeks. Likewise, texting through friends might be beneficial early on, but will end up being problematic later. "But what if they don't like the real me?" Then you shouldn't be pursuing them in the first place. Don't you want to be with someone who loves you for exactly who you are? Sure, you don't need to be so honest that you reveal the time that you peed your pants in middle school or that you cry to Justin Bieber songs every night. Being honest does not mean divulging every element of your life to this person. It just means not pretending to be someone who you're not. At the end of the day, you'll recognize that it's better to stay true to yourself and hold out for a person who will love you, quirks, flaws, and all, because the person that you're texting isn't perfect either. And it'll be so much nicer to know that you hooked this amazing person all by yourself. And THAT is something that you can discuss with your girls.
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